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Everything I Never Told You by Celeste Ng
The Books and Bagels Book Discussion group members rated the book between a 3.5 and 4.0 with one member giving the book a 2.75. The average of the ratings was 3.75.
The Morning Book Break Book Discussion group rated the book between a 1.0 and 4.0. The average of the ratings was 2.53.
As always, the discussion was stimulating and interesting. Several members increased their ratings based on the discussion. The members see value in book discussions as they play a role in helping the individual see a variety of viewpoints that they would not have discovered during their individual reading. This was definitely the case during this discussion.
The evaluation of the novel revolved around two camps. One group of members really disliked the novel. They got lost with the shifting points of view. Overall, members found the book depressing and would not recommend it to others. However, those that disliked the story kept reading because they wanted to find out what happened to Lydia. Some members found the book a chore to read, but they loved the discussion.
Another group of members were impressed with the talented writing of Celeste Ng. They were surprised that this was a debut novel as her prose is both mature and moving. The members found the family dysfunction disturbing, but compelling and haunting. The material was complex and the group felt empathy for the entire family and yet, they found the mother and family completely selfish and self-absorbed.
The facilitator mentioned that she enjoys human behavior and patterns that exists in human interactions. She enjoys trying to figure out the ways people are misunderstood. She likes to explore why miscommunications often happen. She thought the author superbly explored this main dynamic.
- The groups discussed the sibling relationships within the story. We discussed why Lydia is the favorite child of Marilyn and James, her parents. Marilyn pressures Lydia to study hard to obtain the goal of becoming a doctor and James pressures Lydia to be social and popular. We discussed the reasons why her parents apply this pressure and how this attention affects her. We discussed how this attention affects her siblings Nathan and Hannah, and how they are often overlooked.
- We discussed how James and Marilyn’s childhoods informed their parenting style. James struggled with his identity throughout his life and this affected his relationship with his family. We talked about the ways James could have coped with his identity crisis. We talked about the influence parents can have on their children. We discussed communication patterns in this family and how improvements in communication can improve navigation for a new generation of young people.
- We discussed what we wished the characters would have shared with each other and how these interactions could have changed the outcome of the novel.
- On pp. 89-93 James watches as his son Nathan is teased at the pool. We discussed the “Marco Polo” pool scene and talked about how we felt about James’s reaction. We discussed how it feels to be an outsider and how parents’ can help children cope.
- The book is set in Ohio in 1977, so it touches upon the role of stay-at-home mothers and the notion that that motherhood and keeping a home was more satisfying that and important than having a career. We talked about how the story might have been different if it was set in present day Ohio. We discussed whether or not women today can have it all—meaning both children and careers.
- We discussed the role of Jack—a minor character in the story.
- We discussed the shifts in points of view and we discussed the structure of the novel.
- (Spoiler Alert) We discussed what the possible outcomes would be for each member of the family if Lydia had reached the dock.
- We talked about the title and to whom the “I” and “you” refer.
Worth watching in its entirety, Celeste Ng is a dynamic speaker.
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